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In Support Of Victims

By: David Mandel  

It’s so easy to be a Monday morning quarterback. We have the luxury of looking back and saying Would’ve, Could’ve, Should’ve. 

A man and a woman were recently killed in Boro Park. He had mental illness that contributed to his death. She was a victim of domestic abuse. Both deaths were tragic and could have been prevented. Each and every one of us contributed to these killings. 

Monday morning quarterbacks spend a lot of time bemoaning the facts that if only these victims could’ve been this and should’ve been that, they would’ve been something else. Yes, that’s helpful. To a degree. We all learn from experiences and its important to review the facts of a situation to better prepare for the future. That is, after all, why very brave people fly into the dead center of a hurricane at 30,000 feet, to collect data of what is occurring at that very moment so we can better predict and prepare for the next hurricane. 

Predicting the Next Victim 
We don’t have to fly into the center of the two recent killings in Boro Park to gather data. We don’t have to reflect too long to understand that these tragedies will occur again. They will. Soon. And many of them will be similar to a category 4 hurricane. Just substitute the words howling winds, driving rains, massive floods with such words as rage, fury, massive anger. 

This man and woman were victims because they were afraid of us. Numerous newspapers and news magazines carried editorials on Mr. Busch’s death, the man with mental illness. There were those who were pro police, anti police and others that simply said let’s wait for the results of all investigations. The most useful editorials, I believe, were those that commented on our collective role as a society, in better understanding the plight of Mr. Busch and being able to help him in his time of greatest need. 

Shame, Shame, Shame 
Most mental health professionals, who work with victims of child abuse, or domestic abuse or people with mental illness in the Orthodox community, will tell you that the biggest obstacles for a family or a victim to seek treatment are feelings of shame and embarrassment. It’s not that they are ashamed of being a victim. Some victims are ready to seek help immediately while others go through an agonizing, painful process before they are ready to seek professional help. Their problem first and foremost is the shame we, as an Orthodox community, make them feel. We don’t do this on purpose, chas v’shalom. None of us are that cold-hearted. Nevertheless, we do it and we do it all the time. 

We could all give countless examples. Any one of us could enumerate them. Lets start with shidduchim. How many of us would readily be meshadach their son to a girl that has a sibling who has mental illness? Would you let your son, who is sitting in kollel, date a frum young woman who was a rape victim? 

This man and woman who were killed were both victims. They and hundreds and thousands of other victims need more than our curiosity and our compassion. We’re immediately hungry for the facts and then we display a tremendous amount of compassion. We respond, Baruch Hashem , with tears and hundreds of thousands of dollars to create gemilas chesed funds to insure that the remaining victims are taken care of. 

But lets go back a step. Listen closely to the neighbors and friends of a woman murdered by her husband; any woman who was a victim of domestic abuse. You’ll often hear comments, like: We knew it would happen, it was inevitable, he was constantly beating her up, the kids saw this all the time, and so on. 

The data on domestic abuse is fairly consistent. A woman will suffer at the hands of her husband four to seven times before she seeks help. This is physical abuse - being punched, kicked and broken bones. This is preceded by months or years of verbal humiliation and emotional abuse. Emotional abuse can change to physical abuse in a split second. The victim goes through a cycle of blaming herself or hoping it will work out for the sake of the children. But there is an important period of time that she would like to seek help but doesn’t because of how all of us will react. Dealing with the assault from her husband is painful enough. It’s very difficult to deal with the assault we inflict on the victims our stares, our whispers, our tsk, tsk attitude. 

Two years ago I was at a Bar Mitzvah in a well-known shul in Flatbush. I met a man who I knew had a thirty-year-old son with mental illness. We spent a few minutes over pleasantries. As he turned to leave, he asked me, he pleaded with me not to mention to anyone in shul about his son. No one knew, he said. 

Now this probably doesn’t surprise you. I’m sure you’ve encountered these situations before. For thirty years this man and his wife kept a secret from their neighbors in shul. That means they didn’t entertain at their home on a Friday night or for a Shabbos kiddush , or they didn’t have people over for Shalosh Suedos for twenty or thirty years. Worse, it also means they may not be seeking the most effective treatment for their son, the victim, all because of how we will react. 

We’ve spoken about pidyun shevoyim. It’s a very difficult mitzvah to understand. How does one approach this mitzvah if the man in jail abuses his wife? He may not even be in jail for abusing his wife yet we know for a fact that she is a victim. Ask the dedicated volunteers at Shalom Task Force or the therapists at the Jewish Board or at OHEL, who treat these victims. They will tell you countless stories. Ask the members of the Board of Directors at OHEL who are also active in Maimonides Medical Center about the number of frum women, yeshivish and chasidishe, who come into the emergency room. Some of them are newlyweds. Or ask the members of Hatzolah who can tell you a story or two or three or four, from every neighborhood, of domestic abuse. 

Or speak to the professionals that are members of the Task Force on Children and Families At Risk in the Orthodox Jewish Community. They deal with issues of child abuse and domestic abuse. Ask one of these twenty member organizations how often they encounter these situations and are frustrated in their inability to generate an adequate community outcry. The victims of child abuse, mental illness, domestic abuse, rape and other such horrible atrocities are forced victims. Not one of them chose to be in this situation. Too often, we victimize them a second time. The victimization of shame. None of us mean to do it, yet we do it, and we’re good at it. 

We just can’t sit back and blame the police when a person with disabilities is shot or blame the judicial system when an order of protection doesn’t work. We have to assume some responsibility as well and ask ourselves, what could we have done 

When was the last time any one of us went over to a victim and said to them, “I can imagine what you’re going through, what can I do to help? I will speak to the Rav of our shul and make sure our kehillah and our community understands and supports you in every way we can. No one is suggesting that we should get into the midst of a family dispute and be a marriage counselor. But there are times that we will hear of a problem and we will know when a victim is a victim and that they truly need our support. 

There are additional ways for us to support victims. When we hear a naysayer, a person who ridicules the presence of domestic abuse or mental illness, spend a moment and educate him. Ask our Rav to devote a Shabbos drasha to the issue. Speak to our children of marriageable age about shalom bayis and related issues. 

Monday morning quarterbacking is, after all, very painful. When these two victims were buried we realize that part of the shame is on us. We must ask ourselves, did we do enough? How did we contribute to their deaths with our words, with our inaction, with our attitude? How will we act the next time we hear about a victim? If we know of a victim and we don’t support them, we may be guilty of contributing to their suffering and possibly even to their death. 

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